My friend, Terry, teaches an online Women’s Health class to community college students. She asked her students this question: What women’s health issue is most important to you? One of her students sent this response:
I would have to say that having a baby is probably the thing I can relate this to easiest. There is so much involved in having a child. It starts the moment you find out you are expecting. There is this sense of community, of being surround by family and friends, and love. Babies bring out the best in most of us, and they can also bring out the worst in us. There is this juxtaposition when having a child. There are so many decisions to be made, and so much information out there. It can be very overwhelming. Everyone tells you that these choices are yours to make, after all it is “your” body. But wait, is it really your body, or does it now belong the the little person you are creating. Are these choices really yours. Just the basics like eating and exercise become these gigantic decisions.Not to mention things such as what doctor to use? Should you medicate or not? Should you have a home birth or go to a hospital? The questions seem endless. Everyone has their opinion and they are just dying to tell you what you should do. Some people are more discreet about it, others just come right out and say what they think you should do, or what they think you need to hear. The first thing most people tell you are the horror stories of their pregnancy/child birth, or that of a close friend. This advice is usually started by the person saying, “I don’t want to scare you.”, or “I don’t want to tell you what to do…” and then it proceeds to just that. The Internet is full of crazy ideas and worst case scenarios, which is just perfect for the pregnant lady emotions and imagination. They say that each pregnancy/birth is different. I truly believe that. However, there has to be a way for the important information to be passed down, from woman to woman, without all the drama and misinformation. I found it amazing how much my “personal” decisions where being propagandized. Everyone had their opinion on my choices, but in the end, I decided to just put down all the information, and go with my gut. Somehow in this situation intuition just seemed to be the way to go.
I couldn’t have said it better myself.